Challenging the Chase

Today I am a she-woman man hater. You heard  me right, I am shamelessly telling the world I am a certified feminist, meaning I am tired of taking s*&% from worthless men. Living with two boys for two weeks, yes it only lasted that long, confirmed my suspicions about young men and their intentions with women. One night while hot tubbing, both of my roommates were speaking about a "relationship worthy" girl vs a "fun time." (By the way, I would hope any girl they deemed worthy of dating could see clear through their front, lord knows I have taken at least one person at face value)

Anyways, their conversation consisted of "yeah if she will make me chase her, she is worth it. Otherwise, I will just... well, you know." Now that we have confirmed men are simply animals of competition, lets further our understanding of what they really want. From person experience, I can tell you sometimes the chase is not enough to build a lasting relationship.

I let someone step a few feet to get me before and it was not even that I made him chase, but I made him wait to prove his worthiness. Well, after several months of getting to know one another, I felt he was trust worthy enough to take the next step... I was wrong. Some girls get a little more intuitive after taking the next step, maybe a better word is suspicious, and it is for good reason if you ask me.

My latest boyfriend seemed like and angel until he got what he wanted. Before I knew it, he was out every single weekend. His excuse? His best friends wanted to go do something fun. The logical reason: he got what he wanted from me and he went looking for more because he was bored. Yeah, I know, what a jerk right? Right! And after my male roommate experience I was more sure then ever that going out for some guys is just another way of saying I am going fishing. So being patient and understand making them "chase" is not enough to be secure anymore. WE ARE ALL IN DANGER.

What needs to be acknowledged is the fact we are living in a fast digital age where people want to be simulated at all times. Dressing up and going out clearly is not good enough to break relationship boredom. I just used this to vent current frustrations so do not take anything too seriously, but watch your back. We are living in the 21st century and we need to get with the times. I am an old soul, and far too trusting, so it took me a few first hands lessons.

Challenge the chase, be more patient then ever, more self focused then ever, and more cautious when it comes to a love life. We are all too beautiful and powerful to waste a day on heartbreak. Put on your running shoes and don't forget to Winc. ;)