Favoring Friendship

As I have mentioned in previous postings, we so easily get wrapped up in all of the negative parts of our lives, that sometimes, we hardly recognize the good. Today was tragic for me in more ways then one, but the evening reminded me of my simplest pleasure and abundant part of life, my friends.

The last year or so, I had spent a lot of time feeding a negative relationship and ignoring all of the lovely people encouraging and supporting me. The other day, a close friend and I were discussing the time and blessings we had began to lose track of so we decided to make a list of regrets we may have had we died that day. My most important regret would have been the lack of love and friendship I endured this past year, and tonight, I was reminded by two old friends just why that would be.

Several young men and I met two years ago. One of them saw me dancing at the club and was determined to get my number. Although I declined many times, he found a way to get to me through a mutual friend and a 65 mile radius. Thus began my first summer as a college student learning what true love and friendship means with the opposite sex. They are rowdy, funny, and allow me and my girls into their circle of conversation without hesitation. They helped me have the most beautiful and memorable summer of my life.

I left to school and seldom came home for a visit as I quickly became infatuated with a new love interest. Everyone else in my lifem who truly knew me best began to fade, these boys included.

One of my special male friends sent me a text, seeing how I was doing, the other day and to my surprise, he would be visiting the new area I am living in. We plan to see each other and I am beyond excited. Today seemed dreary and frustrating until my friend lets me know he will be in the area this very night and is bringing another close friend with him.

To be honest, I was nervous. Not because I hadn't seen them in a long time or because I used to have a crush on one of them, but because I knew I was sad and did not want true friends to see me in that state. They are used to me being high strung, which I miss. When they arrive at my apartment complex, I have enough love in me to squeeze them each for a decade. I almost forgot what my friends meant to me and through this visit, I experience love again for the first time in a while.

Speaking with the two of them made me feel like we only hadn't seen one another for a week. I was comfortable, happy, and myself; this is a perfect feeling. As the night dwindles, there is never a dull moment. I am appreciating every second they spend with me. When they finally left, I wished they would have stayed forever, just to make sure that feeling never fades away.

Reconnecting with friends like this and never taking a moment for granite was the most complete use of time I have had since leaving for school. The last person I spent this much time with challenged me for being  my comical and warm self. So here am I ladies, advising you not to waste another moment on catty fights or unhealthy relationships because they are not worth the time.

The feeling I had tonight should be brought into our lives each day. Next time a friend is around, do not take it for granite. Favor Friendship above all things, except maybe family, and when four hours pass without you noticing , do not forget to look at your dear friend with appreciation and "Winc." ;)