Confronting the Cheater

I have a close friend who has been experiencing inconsistent patterns in her boyfriends behavior for the last 6 months. She is incredibly trusting, strong, and confident, but it seems that her partner has begun to challenge her boundaries. First it was just going out often, next it was suspicious text, and lately a request for partial separation.


Unfortunately, since we are women, there is an innate attachment to a person like that; some of us may hope they will come back around and be the honest gentleman we began to date others just feel no one else will want them after this bastard tore them apart (or maybe that is just me ;)). I do not want this post to be about catching a cheater, because sometimes they may not be messing around with another girl, just your feelings and lenience.                      
                                                                                                        So I guess the question is, for her and the rest of us, when do we stand our ground in a long term relationship gone sour?                                                            


In any case, this particular friend asked me how to address the issue several days ago and I had no good advice other than to be honest and trust your instincts. Life is short, and your soul is valuable. When you are in a relationship, both are being compromised so it is important to confront the cheater before either are further stripped from you.

So ladies, next time your man is testing, taking advantage, or cheating know that there is a world filled with millions of men with the capacity to treat you right and a billion women who sympathize with you. You may be surprised by how many of us are willing to offer unbiased support. There is never a need to compromise your standards to work around a deceitful man. Confront the cheater and when you close the door on him and that poisonous relationship, don't forget to look  straight ahead and "Winc."