No- Dependent

I am learning to stand on my own two feet in what seems like a pile of quicksand right now. We leave our nest, or home, and attempt to become an individual with no ties to our past expect there are a few problems these days which enable us from doing so. This is a little something I like to call co-dependency. Most of us identify being a co dependent with always needing a boyfriend or latching onto friends to tightly, which is in fact a form, but I think it has transformed into something far more dangerous as our social media outlets are gaining more and more control of our lives.

I am one of those crazy people who deletes their Facebook every other week ( don't judge me I am sure you do it too) because I find myself looking at all of the positive things my peers from adolescence are doing and feel inadequate. This is usually the point where I begin to publish small tidbits of pointless information or musical interest while I was for a few likes or comments. It is incredible how much confidence we receive from seeing the number 3 next to a thumbs up sign on a status.

Well, this is the new kind of codependency I am talking about. Instead of taking the active steps we need to in our real live (our lives on earth) we are busy flipping through pictures, memories, and that one girls page who hooked up with your best friends ex boyfriend. Please, do not act like you haven't done it. I am guilty as charged.

The last term I spent at the University of Oregon, I finally took an active step and applied for an internship I wanted for a long time. Initially, I was sending emails telling them I was looking for a chance to help around the office because I was too scared to step out in the real world. I felt much more comfortable sitting at my computer desk, and seeing how many new people who knew nothing about me wanted to be a Facebook "friend". From the internship, I gained enough confidence to start my blog, met a journalist who taught me playboy used to stand for a political message opposed to a perverted one, and got a few free gift certificates to some restaurants I would not have been able to afford as a broke and busy college student.

So women, young and old, do not get wrapped up in the codependent world of social networking. Actually, stay away from all co-dependent issues. They will tare you down, you were meant to stand tall and "Winc" at every opportunity in life ;)