Parental Profile

Okay, so I have a problem letting my parents and their own personal issues overshadow me. I know for a fact I am not the only young woman with the problem because a good majority of my friends come from homes with divorced parents, parents who are alcoholics, and parents who a simply d-motivated individuals. So as I was in my mothers home, an entire story above her and heard she and my father arguing for at least 30 minutes before I decided I needed to do something. I was on the verge of letting their issues completely consume me (and although at the time I am trying to act strong so I can encourage my fellow women to do the same) I cracked before I calmed down. 

For me, it sort of went in the sequence of going down stairs, telling my mom to stop taking crap from someone who has been emotionally abusive for 30 years, and then taking her self phone to help her. (this was all out of love just so you know). After I placed her phone in her room and attempted to encourage her to quit these habits, I went outside to my car, turned the keys, and called one of my good friends. This friend told me I was more then welcomed to come over and get away from the madness at home but then I acknowledged several different facts. 1. Petaluma was going to take a lot of gas and if I was going to drive that far I might as well go all the way to the city. 2. My mom had been doing this to herself for years, if I think my being upset about it is going to change anything now, I am wrong 3. I managed to stress myself out, ruin my make-up, and almost eat a candy bar. It just would not have been worth it.

So now that I managed to calm down and control my resentful attitude towards my parents, I thought it would be an appropriate time to write. We can not be bound by our parents. Period. We were born into the world by them, but that being the big curse it is now days (I am a joking) we owe ourselves equally as much as we owe them. Since I was a little girl, I have always clung to my mother and been there to pat her back when she was sad, but now that I am becoming my own woman, it is time to leave that in the past. One person's burdens are enough to carry, but two will bring you to a point where even standing up straight seems impossible.

So now I am making sure all of you know we can not hide behind our parents profile. It may be solid and dark, but behind it there is a colorful you with a life and experience completely different from theirs. I know it gets hard at times to look in a separate direction or onto a higher road then those who raised you, but it is possible and you can do it! Make your own profile stand out now. Free To Be! (those are the key words of the day)